One common myth about money is falling into the fairness trap with value relativity. When the quality of work is hard to judge, we tend to value those who work longer and harder more highly. This is a fairness trap. A novice locksmith might take a long time to open a locked door, while an experienced one can do it instantly. People often pay higher wages to novice locksmiths who have spent more time working. Even if the lock is damaged due to clumsy work and they are charged for replacement, people might still tip because the locksmith worked hard and did his best for a long time. When paying for something that’s difficult to evaluate, people care about fairness. But the real reason to call a locksmith is to avoid the embarrassing situation of being unable to enter the house quickly. I don’t know if this is true, but a woman once asked Picasso to draw her portrait, and he did it in 30 seconds. When she asked how much she should pay, Picasso said her $500. She complained that this was o...
When we face the most innumerable values, we do not feel to be grateful. The most valuable things in the world are almost things we do not thank or easily ignore, like the air, light, etc. When the gratitude is routinized, the lack occurs instead. When the recent gratitude is forgotten, we blame and curse dissatisfaction. So if you want to protect the breaking relationship with someone, while you try your best but don't cause the gratitude of someone for you never become routine. If appreciation for you is routinized, the relationship you want to protect will be destroyed. Unconditionally good relationships can end for this reason. - Joseph’s “just my thoughts”