Everyone is aware of their own shortcomings. Personal judgment based on individual experience can be either an advantage or a disadvantage. One’s experiences and circumstances influence how these advantages and disadvantages are perceived. As circumstances change, so do the benefits and drawbacks. For example, if the trait of being unable to form long-term relationships due to untrustworthy people is a disadvantage, it can become an advantage when dealing with a scammer. If you’re troubled by a shortcoming that’s difficult to fix, I suggest changing your perspective. Instead of trying to fix the shortcomings, consider changing how you interpret the situation. This way, disadvantages can actually turn into benefits. However, shifting your point of view on your own can be challenging. - Joseph’s “just my thoughts”
When we face the most innumerable values, we do not feel to be grateful. The most valuable things in the world are almost things we do not thank or easily ignore, like the air, light, etc. When the gratitude is routinized, the lack occurs instead. When the recent gratitude is forgotten, we blame and curse dissatisfaction. So if you want to protect the breaking relationship with someone, while you try your best but don't cause the gratitude of someone for you never become routine. If appreciation for you is routinized, the relationship you want to protect will be destroyed. Unconditionally good relationships can end for this reason. - Joseph’s “just my thoughts”