Money and attention affect how we experience pain and joy. People tend to feel worse when paying with cash compared to using a card. If a restaurant charges you $1 for a spoonful of food, your enjoyment diminishes because you focus more on the cost than the food itself. To reduce spending, you should make spending feel painful. For example, paying with cash rather than a credit card usually leads to less spending. Automatic debit can become a trap. A study shows electricity use increases by 4% when bills are paid via direct debit. Managing spending involves controlling how much importance you give to it. Ultimately, to reduce expenses, we need to change the system and how it’s structured. - Joseph’s “just my thoughts”
When we face the most innumerable values, we do not feel to be grateful. The most valuable things in the world are almost things we do not thank or easily ignore, like the air, light, etc. When the gratitude is routinized, the lack occurs instead. When the recent gratitude is forgotten, we blame and curse dissatisfaction. So if you want to protect the breaking relationship with someone, while you try your best but don't cause the gratitude of someone for you never become routine. If appreciation for you is routinized, the relationship you want to protect will be destroyed. Unconditionally good relationships can end for this reason. - Joseph’s “just my thoughts”