One of the most common misconceptions is that people mistake cause and effect as interchangeable. A cause is often seen as an effect, or an effect is mistaken for a cause. The most well-known phenomenon demonstrating this is the halo effect — a situation where specific characteristics of an object influence how we judge other traits. For example, you might like that person’s character because you like one of their qualities, not because you like the person as a whole. This misunderstanding is a common causal error. If you like someone, you tend to think everything about them is good; if you don’t like someone, you might overlook or dislike everything about them. It’s not that you dislike the person for one reason and like them for another—it’s simply how the human heart works. Gaining someone’s favor, therefore, can be an arduous and painful process. - Joseph’s “just my thoughts”
Humans establish a tacit relationship distance with others without even knowing it. Each person’s relationship distance is different, and it is not permitted to change the distance unless there is a specific reason or motive. Relationship distance is fateful. Sometimes, an event creates an opportunity for others to confirm the unilateral setting of the relationship distance. If the other person agrees to a one-sided distance setting, the relationship continues. All of this is often more informal and tacit. It is nearly impossible for others to change this distance. Therefore, we create a new relationship. - Joseph’s “just my thoughts”