If thinking is categorized practically, it can be broadly split into ‘volitional thinking’ and ‘instrumental thinking.’ Volitional thinking involves the belief that to succeed, a person must have a strong will to overcome hardships and obstacles. Self-improvement falls under this category. However, to actually overcome hardships and obstacles, it is instrumental thinking that drives us to consider that we need ‘tools’ to get past them. In other words, it’s like how carpenters build houses: they construct the structure, but tools are what make it possible. There is no carpenter without tools. Both are essential for success, but if I had to emphasize one, focusing on instrumental thinking is more advantageous. - Joseph’s “just my thoughts”
Humans establish a tacit relationship distance with others without even knowing it. Each person’s relationship distance is different, and it is not permitted to change the distance unless there is a specific reason or motive. Relationship distance is fateful. Sometimes, an event creates an opportunity for others to confirm the unilateral setting of the relationship distance. If the other person agrees to a one-sided distance setting, the relationship continues. All of this is often more informal and tacit. It is nearly impossible for others to change this distance. Therefore, we create a new relationship. - Joseph’s “just my thoughts”