We describe the size and qualities of a human being’s capacity as a ‘bowl.’ People often say that luck or opportunity that exceeds the size of one’s bowl is rather harmful. That’s why people advise you to either seize the luck and opportunity that fit your bowl or make your bowl bigger. So, how do you determine the size of the bowl? Congenital conditions may also influence it, but acquired experiences and self-reflection are factors that shape the size of the bowl. Since I can’t force myself to create luck and opportunity, all I can do is develop my judgment and have the courage to accept or reject. The key to judgment is to avoid underestimating or overestimating yourself. Ultimately, it is most important to understand your own identity properly to make a true bowl. - Joseph’s “just my thoughts”
Humans establish a tacit relationship distance with others without even knowing it. Each person’s relationship distance is different, and it is not permitted to change the distance unless there is a specific reason or motive. Relationship distance is fateful. Sometimes, an event creates an opportunity for others to confirm the unilateral setting of the relationship distance. If the other person agrees to a one-sided distance setting, the relationship continues. All of this is often more informal and tacit. It is nearly impossible for others to change this distance. Therefore, we create a new relationship. - Joseph’s “just my thoughts”