When money interferes in a relationship, it changes the dynamic. Social norms and market rules come into conflict. For example, imagine a couple on a date, and when the man takes the woman home, he says, “I spent $100 on you today.” Suddenly, a romantic relationship shifts into a market transaction. Messages like “Next time, it’s your turn to pay” and “I did this for you today” appear. The benefits of social norms differ from those of market rules. Both are necessary, but the relationship is affected by when, how, and to whom they are applied. A person who fails to strike a balance between these two aspects risks damaging relationships and harming communities. - Joseph’s “just my thoughts”
Humans establish a tacit relationship distance with others without even knowing it. Each person’s relationship distance is different, and it is not permitted to change the distance unless there is a specific reason or motive. Relationship distance is fateful. Sometimes, an event creates an opportunity for others to confirm the unilateral setting of the relationship distance. If the other person agrees to a one-sided distance setting, the relationship continues. All of this is often more informal and tacit. It is nearly impossible for others to change this distance. Therefore, we create a new relationship. - Joseph’s “just my thoughts”