When money interferes in a relationship, it changes the dynamic. Social norms and market rules come into conflict. For example, imagine a couple on a date, and when the man takes the woman home, he says, “I spent $100 on you today.” Suddenly, a romantic relationship shifts into a market transaction. Messages like “Next time, it’s your turn to pay” and “I did this for you today” appear. The benefits of social norms differ from those of market rules. Both are necessary, but the relationship is affected by when, how, and to whom they are applied. A person who fails to strike a balance between these two aspects risks damaging relationships and harming communities. - Joseph’s “just my thoughts”
If you can’t throw away what you have, you don’t own it properly. If you cannot leave the place you are staying, you are not entirely settled. Possession and non-possession share the same root, and wandering and settlement share the same root. There is no eternal state; we only enjoy a temporary state. It is often misunderstood that a state of possession for a moment is possession, and that a momentary absence is mistaken for wandering. The world changes, and you change too. Obsession and stubbornness will only hinder your change. If you know how to give up and leave at any time, the value of what you currently have and the state you are in will change significantly. Stability comes from sharing instability. - Joseph’s “just my thoughts”