Joseph's "Just My Thoughts"

A relationship of empathy or best friendship is one in which there is a relatively equal exchange of emotions. However, there is an unequal exchange of emotions. Take celebrities and fans, for example, or dictators and people. When the structure of unequal emotional exchange spreads, it inevitably leads to unhappiness. That's what unreciprocated love is all about. The dictator is so too. Therefore, a married couple must have an equal structure of emotional exchange for the relationship to be healthy. - Joseph’s “just my thoughts”

Knowing someone and being friendly with someone are two very different things. Two main ways to build relationships with main motives are affiliation and intimacy. "Affiliation motivation" is the psychological action of getting along with others to avoid rejection. The "intimacy motive" is to increase intimacy with a select few and establish a stable relationship. It would be mentally strained to have more than 10 to 15 relationships. If you feel burdened by human relationships, you must examine your treatment of people with "affinity." The fear of being rejected is what drives the mind. - Joseph’s "just my thoughts”

When we face the most innumerable values, we do not feel to be grateful. The most valuable things in the world are almost things we do not thank or easily ignore, like the air, light, etc. When the gratitude is routinized, the lack occurs instead. When the recent gratitude is forgotten, we blame and curse dissatisfaction. So if you want to protect the breaking relationship with someone, while you try your best but don't cause the gratitude of someone for you never become routine. If appreciation for you is routinized, the relationship you want to protect will be destroyed. Unconditionally good relationships can end for this reason. - Joseph’s “just my thoughts”

In addition to the humanities, the natural sciences are very helpful in business and management. While the humanities provide human-centered insights, the natural sciences offer as neutral a view of the world as possible. Without the perspective of the world, we can't know the world. Biology gives us an understanding of how organizations and ecosystems work. Physics provides us with a comprehension of the nature of space, the nature of time, and the dynamics of relationships. Knowledge expands the world as we know it. - Joseph’s “just my thoughts”

Before the high level of civilization, human life was tribal. However human beings were needed for the large-scale labor force for industrialization, so people were gathering in the cities for a living. That was the detribalization. These days when we are developed by social media, people are used to selectively make a relationship with those who have similar philosophies and preferences. Rather, the new media makes the retribalization in different meanings. Therefore, now human relationships are becoming more important the interests and preferences. When choosing to make a relationship, people gather according to their preferences. Communication is narrower and more easily ostracized. - Joseph’s “just my thoughts”

On the economic front, a relationship that believes in each other is much more beneficial than an untrustworthy relationship. Disbelief results in inefficiency and leads to increased costs. Nevertheless, most of us choose to be distrustful because our experiences of loss from betraying after we have trusted someone are clearly visible and the benefits of cost savings by trusting someone are invisible. My attitude toward the world determines my actions, in our distorted experience, we regret and conflict daily. Even though we know it's a loss, we continue to cling to our foolish choices. - Joseph’s "just my thoughts"

Knowing and doing are two very different things. Zhuge Liang, an incomparable genius who was a Chinese prime minister of the Three Kingdoms, knew the deep secret of nature. However, he suffered a great defeat in the most important battle because he wrongly appointed Ma Su as his subordinate general, even though he knew him well and had received a warning about his appointment from the late king. Personnel management is the most difficult thing in the world, and to manage it well is the key to success. - Joseph's "just my thoughts"

Treating relationships between people is the world's hardest and most difficult thing. Most hard work mentally means feeling some troubles in the relationship among the people. If you feel so tired from your ordinary life, go deep inside of your mind to find the stresses from the people out, then you should take a rest enough. A rest gives us the power to stand for passing our lifetimes by, not to move the stresses themselves out. After all, time is medicine. -  Joseph's "j ust my thoughts"