Joseph's "Just My Thoughts"

Can I live by only meeting the people I need? Obviously, some people are essential to me, but not everyone I have a relationship with is there because I need them. So, shouldn’t we connect with people who are less needy? Is my criterion correct? The relationships I have now are a result of meeting both needed and unnecessary people. Regret doesn’t justify my current relationships. We have all encountered precious individuals. The plausible excuse is merely a convenient way to package my priorities and outcomes. Don’t deceive yourself. - Joseph’s “just my thoughts”

The frequent sensation of missing someone, coupled with the increasing number of missing persons, is evidence that we are aging. People tend not to miss those linked to bad memories. Yearning is a happy emotion. When the feeling of yearning is intense, the regret for the person also grows larger. When happy memories and regrets intertwine, it can result in heartache. Perhaps happiness and unhappiness ultimately become indistinguishable. - Joseph’s “just my thoughts”

A heart’s wound heals not through will but through chance. If we fixate on our lingering emotions and pain, we will endure even greater suffering until we encounter that chance. Emptying our minds isn’t just a trendy idea; it’s essential, as clinging to stubbornness leads to futility. I realized this truth after overcoming my stubbornness, which ultimately brought me far more happiness and joy than regret by freeing myself from it. - Joseph’s “just my thoughts”

You probably suspect that your decisions are reasonably based on your judgment. However, human decisions are made according to the rules and structures at that time. By changing the decision structure and regulations, humans make different decisions under the same conditions. If you make a mistake, you don't have to regret or blame yourself for making the wrong decision. But, if you fail to judge the regulations and structure of the decision, then you must reflect on the mistake. This is to prevent repeated mistakes. - Joseph’s “just my thoughts”

On the economic front, a relationship that believes in each other is much more beneficial than an untrustworthy relationship. Disbelief results in inefficiency and leads to increased costs. Nevertheless, most of us choose to be distrustful because our experiences of loss from betraying after we have trusted someone are clearly visible and the benefits of cost savings by trusting someone are invisible. My attitude toward the world determines my actions, in our distorted experience, we regret and conflict daily. Even though we know it's a loss, we continue to cling to our foolish choices. - Joseph’s "just my thoughts"