When you’re in a relationship, you shouldn’t judge the person based on how they treat you or others, but rather on how they treat themselves. Because when someone treats themselves well, they are unlikely to deceive themselves. This is also because, even if they do deceive themselves, you can often see the flaws in their contradictions in their appearance. Self-development and building relationships all begin within oneself. What I think of myself is the most important benchmark in my life. - Joseph’s “just my thoughts”
Everyone is aware of their own shortcomings. Personal judgment based on individual experience can be either an advantage or a disadvantage. One’s experiences and circumstances influence how these advantages and disadvantages are perceived. As circumstances change, so do the benefits and drawbacks. For example, if the trait of being unable to form long-term relationships due to untrustworthy people is a disadvantage, it can become an advantage when dealing with a scammer. If you’re troubled by a shortcoming that’s difficult to fix, I suggest changing your perspective. Instead of trying to fix the shortcomings, consider changing how you interpret the situation. This way, disadvantages can actually turn into benefits. However, shifting your point of view on your own can be challenging. - Joseph’s “just my thoughts”