When money interferes in a relationship, it changes the dynamic. Social norms and market rules come into conflict. For example, imagine a couple on a date, and when the man takes the woman home, he says, “I spent $100 on you today.” Suddenly, a romantic relationship shifts into a market transaction. Messages like “Next time, it’s your turn to pay” and “I did this for you today” appear. The benefits of social norms differ from those of market rules. Both are necessary, but the relationship is affected by when, how, and to whom they are applied. A person who fails to strike a balance between these two aspects risks damaging relationships and harming communities. - Joseph’s “just my thoughts”
Expertise is not “to know only me,” but “to make understanding others to know with what only I know for.” It is not expertise if I cannot persuade others by overwhelming them with my things. The expertise that failed to convince and communicate is called “stubbornness”. “Collective intelligence” is the expertise that succeeds in persuasion and communication, and does not mean a stubbornness that enforces consensus. - Joseph’s “just my thoughts”