Joseph's "Just My Thoughts"

If you think that ‘expressing love is all about love,’ your eyes will not be able to see the other person properly. If you haven’t truly contemplated love, you won’t have the ability to judge whether someone genuinely considers me. In this scenario, there is a high possibility that it will become one of those relationships where the other person is used to beg for affection or is deceived by coaxing . Thinking about love begins with clearly defining what it means to be human in one’s mind. If this premise is flawed, then the feeling of love can destroy the relationship between the two; people may end up blaming the lover. - Joseph’s “just my thoughts”

Psychologist Robert Epstein published a paper in 2002 that found that many couples who do not marry, due to affection being the main cause, such as in arranged marriages , develop romantic relationships with greater affection over time than couples who marry for love. In other words, love doesn’t change us; rather, when we change our behavior, greater love emerges. If you change your mind, your behavior will change, but in fact, if you change your behavior, it seems more reasonable to change your mind. Actions influence the mind. - Joseph’s “just my thoughts”

Humans reveal their values through choices amidst contradictions. When people experience anger, they tend to prioritize the reasons behind that emotion; when they feel regret, they recognize what they love about the other person. Essentially, humans display their true character in adverse situations . - Joseph’s “just my thoughts”

Human relationships are intertwined, so loving and being loved cannot be quantified. There is rarely a scenario where love is given or received unilaterally. When someone with little experience in accepting love from others tries to love, their affection is likely to be selfish. Dedicating oneself to a loved one while refusing to accept that person’s devotion is akin to accepting a child’s cute movements while disliking their grumblings. Establishing an artificial relationship and preventing it from evolving beyond superficiality merely highlights one’s selfishness. - Joseph’s “just my thoughts”

Anthropologist Margaret Mead emphasized “fracture” as a more relevant concept than using tools as markers of human civilization. When an animal is fractured, it becomes easy prey for predators. However, when humans are fractured and unable to function, they rely on the support of their neighbors. Unlike animals, which show no evidence of broken bones and can reattach, humans leave physical marks. Notably, the birth canal of women is narrower than that of other species, complicating the process of giving birth without assistance. Thus, it is incredibly challenging for anyone to bear a child independently. This fact underscores that human childbirth inherently necessitates social interaction. Anatomically, humans have socialized since birth. While women physically bring children into the world, it is society that nurtures and supports this life. Therefore, the core and utmost value of civilization is LOVE for our neighbors. - Joseph’s “just my thoughts”

In some cases, US real estate agents suggest that homeowners bake bread before potential buyers arrive for a showing. For many Americans, the aroma of fresh bread evokes a sense of family value. When the scent permeates the home, it creates an impression of a joyful household. Real estate brokers aren’t merely selling properties; they are in the business of selling “family love.” Their focus is on conveying “meanings” rather than selling mere products. - Joseph’s “just my thoughts”

To succeed in business, you must have business skills. Business skills can only help you earn money, not create it. The success of a business lies in "dealing with people" rather than "business skills." Dealing with people is the hardest thing in this world. Commercial skills and techniques can lead to small successes, but to achieve great success, we must be able to judge and deal with people well. Above all, we must be patient and love people. - Joseph’s “just my thoughts”

Love may appear as a sacrifice, but the sacrifice is not love. This is because we must determine whether there is a price behind the sacrifice. Doing good and right doesn't mean you don't get hurt. I get hurt because I'm alive. Therefore, to be afraid of being hurt or to avoid being hurt is the most cowardly act in life. - Joseph's "just my thoughts"