When money interferes in a relationship, it changes the dynamic. Social norms and market rules come into conflict. For example, imagine a couple on a date, and when the man takes the woman home, he says, “I spent $100 on you today.” Suddenly, a romantic relationship shifts into a market transaction. Messages like “Next time, it’s your turn to pay” and “I did this for you today” appear. The benefits of social norms differ from those of market rules. Both are necessary, but the relationship is affected by when, how, and to whom they are applied. A person who fails to strike a balance between these two aspects risks damaging relationships and harming communities. - Joseph’s “just my thoughts”
As a result, it is easy to justify a motive or process. Consequently, individuals who distort motives or processes excel at rationalizing their own mistakes and often misrepresent and belittle the original intentions of others. Such a person is adept at criticizing others, lamenting poor outcomes, and frequently exposing an underlying greed for regret . This individual effectively repels assistance from those around them, yet wonders why many betray him or her and depart. They also attempt to overlook the presence of greed at the core of their actions. - Joseph’s “just my thoughts”