Habits and Structuring: The human willpower is of limited help when trying to change habits or create new ones. Everyone has habits that are hard to change. If you repeatedly forget to do something, you may feel embarrassed. In that case, you need to change the structure. For example, change the order of tasks. This is called coupling or decoupling, and connecting new habits with existing ones can make changes easier to implement. For instance, if you often run late in the morning, consider changing the order of your routine or linking it with another habit. If you forget to take your morning medication, try attaching it to another daily activity, such as drinking water before or after a meal, and the habit of forgetfulness will fade. Relying solely on willpower is unwise. - Joseph’s “just my thoughts”
Speaking negatively to others stems from my discomfort. Positive language fosters respect and happiness in relationships. This isn’t merely due to the “power of positivity”; it’s how our brains have evolved to interpret it. When asked, “Why don’t you study?” the negative framing prompts the brain to release cortisol, which ramps up stress. Consequently, the brain associates “studying” with unpleasantness. Conversely, if you say, “I appreciate your studying even while you play,” the message shifts. Parents shape children; husbands influence wives, and wives impact husbands. - Joseph’s “just my thoughts”