Egoistic Mind. Traditional education that emphasizes social interaction often views ‘selfishness’ as a negative trait. However, selfishness is a necessary component for survival. The problem arises when selfishness is solely focused on oneself, as it can damage social bonds and community life. I believe that selfishness and sociality are qualities that should be balanced and complemented, not seen as mutually exclusive. Ultimately, selfishness should align with social interests. I call this positive form of selfishness “altruistic selfishness.” It means making choices that satisfy your own needs first, but ultimately acting in a way that promotes happiness for both yourself and your neighbors. - Joseph’s “just my thoughts”
Speaking negatively to others stems from my discomfort. Positive language fosters respect and happiness in relationships. This isn’t merely due to the “power of positivity”; it’s how our brains have evolved to interpret it. When asked, “Why don’t you study?” the negative framing prompts the brain to release cortisol, which ramps up stress. Consequently, the brain associates “studying” with unpleasantness. Conversely, if you say, “I appreciate your studying even while you play,” the message shifts. Parents shape children; husbands influence wives, and wives impact husbands. - Joseph’s “just my thoughts”