If a planner becomes attached to the work they plan, it is easy to lose their objectivity. To be a planner, one needs to step back and view the work from a third-person perspective without getting caught up in the planning process. The cost of a project that has lost its objectivity is severe and leads to regrets. However, it is not too late to develop attachment after evaluating the planning results. Creators must work with attachment, but planners need to remain objective to maximize their chances of success. Adhesives are only useful when sticking different materials together; in other situations, nothing is more inconvenient than glue. In planning, attachment functions similarly. - Joseph’s “just my thoughts”
Speaking negatively to others stems from my discomfort. Positive language fosters respect and happiness in relationships. This isn’t merely due to the “power of positivity”; it’s how our brains have evolved to interpret it. When asked, “Why don’t you study?” the negative framing prompts the brain to release cortisol, which ramps up stress. Consequently, the brain associates “studying” with unpleasantness. Conversely, if you say, “I appreciate your studying even while you play,” the message shifts. Parents shape children; husbands influence wives, and wives impact husbands. - Joseph’s “just my thoughts”